Take a piece of paper (or write this in your journal) and write across the top,
"If I believe ________________, then I will __________________."
Then create two columns under that statement.
One for beliefs and one for actions to back up those beliefs.
"If I believe ________________, then I will __________________."
Then create two columns under that statement.
One for beliefs and one for actions to back up those beliefs.
Here is one of the things I wrote back in my BOS then:
"If I believe that all people deserve and warrant love, then I will work to give love everyday to the people in my life (even when they piss me off)."
(Can you tell that I was working on my curmudgeon tendency? I still am!)
I can see how this exercise would help so many, not just parents (after all, I first did it and got something out of it before Rowan was born). But I see this as especially helpful exercise for parents to do as a way not to lose themselves while they raise their children:
"If I believe that painting makes me a happier more well-rounded person, then I will set aside 3 hours a week to paint." (Then go about hiring a babysitter, or whatever you need to do to make this happen.)
And I see it as helpful for parents to remember the whole picture in relation to their children:
"If I believe that my child deserves to grow up to be a free thinker, then I will allow her/him to make simple age-appropriate choices for him/herself each day." (And then set about to find places in their day to allow for choice (food, clothing, etc.)
If you find this tool helpful, I would love to read your set intentions in the comments below!
I like this! I have to do some major health changes to keep from being put on meds. I have six months to do it.
ReplyDeleteIf I believe that good health is in my hands then I will be able to change my food choices to more what Mother Nature intended.